Let me tell you a short story about a boy and girl I know who tend to hurt each other without knowing it.
Focusing on the girl she was a real beauty, really, she didn’t even need make-up to turn the heads on the street. She was young, funny, charismatic, and the list of her good aspects is lengthy. The boy was average, at least that was his opinion of himself, but he had one trait he valued above his looks which was a heart of pure gold for that one girl. They met at a young age, she was 14 and he was 12 and by some miracle or some unknown force they struck the love at first sight as in some fairy tale, they felt like they won the lottery, in some way they did to be honest. You might not believe it but they are still together for almost 10 years now. Through time their love reached a lot of stages all the way from puppy love to being like an old married couple they held strong through ups and downs which life constantly threw at them.
Some time ago they reached their 20’s and life with technology got more modern, social media started to become addictive and demanding, everywhere you looked fitness posts smacked you in the face. Eventually they gave in to the trend and started going to the gym. And gym felt like falling in love again, they were hooked and there were no negative sides to it, they were achieving impressive results and were able to motivate each other. As you might guess from experience life decided to come and see how are they doing, displeased that everything was going so smooth it naturally had to throw in some bumps and bends.
The boy was not bothered by the fact he had to drop out of the gym and attend irregularly as his priority was always the girl. And when times often were desperate he always said “Stop worrying, we will make it because simply have no other choice.” The girl was not happy with her poor attendance and sometimes less money meant less healthy food which resulted in body changes. She was not fat but getting further away from the body she was working for. Unfortunately the social media kept spamming her with pictures of athletes and models trying to brainwash her that this is the only body shape accepted by the society 7% fat and 60kg weight. Which in my personal opinion is not attractive.
It all started affecting her mood, she often was sad or irritated because she doesn’t look like the girls on Instagram, that her belly isn’t perfectly flat and her butt is not big enough. Mind you she was still perfectly healthy and stunningly beautiful, I am saying this as I have seen her.
The boy noticed straight away how she feels and did what he could to cheer her up. He knew he is not perfect but he tried and carrying a lot on his shoulders did not make it any easier. Juggling two jobs to pay rent and bills while trying to save something on the side and keeping his girl happy was no easy task. After all everything he did was for her and never otherwise eve when it didn’t seem like it. Meanwhile the girl was spiraling down with her emotions, the boys efforts were often not enough which made him feel like he’s not good enough. The girl often complained about her own looks sometimes even wept, but the boy could not understand her problems, to him she was pure perfection. She was his whole world and it saddened him that his world doesn’t see how much he loves her beauty. Every time she wept his heart was breaking and he told her she is the most beautiful girl in the world and loves her and he meant it as pure as can be but it was something she had trouble to see. So every time she wept and said she is fat he shed a tear, usually when alone as he didn’t want her to see him for weak.
Every time she cried so did he as he could not understand why, was it his fault? could he done something? change something? why can’t she see herself the way he looks at her? were his efforts not enough? after all his every action is to provide for her financially and emotionally. These thoughts were tearing him apart every time.
Little does she know, to him she is stuck in amber since the first time he saw her and no mater what size, shape, age she is, to him she’s always the girl he fell in love with and will love her no matter what she becomes. So you shall not compete with other girls on the web as they hold no candle in fact they are not even competition to you and you are everything to me. So I hope that when you read this you will feel better about yourself, and strangers may this apply to you too.